How to date a trophy boyfriend
By Georgia Clark
He’s gorgeous, a total score, and he goes with everything. No, you haven’t started calling your latest online splurge by a pronoun, we’re talking about your fella. Are you dating a trophy boyfriend, and more importantly, does it matter?
When Avril Lavingne’s three-year marriage to punk rocker Deryck Whibley ended last year, she did what every self-respecting hot young thing did: she picked up a trophy boyfriend; the perfectly symmetrical Brody Jenner. Overnight, Avril transformed herself from divorcee to totally desirable. “The truth is, when you’re surrounded by fabulousness, some of it rubs off,” confides dating and body language expert Katia Loisel-Furey (co-author of How To Get The Man You Want). Katia confirms we’re seeing an increase in women who aren’t willing to settle or want a long-term relationship. Instead, we want to be the one calling the shots, and have a damn good time doing it. Hello, trophy boyfriend!
Good for your Health?
We’re not going to lie – dating a trophy boyfriend can be downright awesome. It’s an instant ego boost and a failsafe pick-me-up. “Snagging yourself a trophy boyfriend makes you the envy of all of your friends, and ups your status quo,” says Katia. “If you can attract a gorgeous, rich or well-known guy then surely you must be someone pretty special too.” By reveling in the attention and accepting yes, little old you managed to reel in the Hunk of the Month, you’ll exude the confidence and charisma he’s looking for in the first place.
You just have to stay grounded. Don’t make the mistake of putting all your self-confidence eggs in his basket. True and lasting self-confidence comes from a holistic acceptance of who you really are, warts and all. There’s a difference between getting off on dating a Ken doll, and placing all your self-worth in the fact your honey could be an action figure.
In it for the Long Haul?
Could your Clooney cutout be a long-term prospect? That’s a question only you can answer, but unless you’re happy with only connecting between the sheets, the answer is probably no. “In most cases, a trophy boyfriend is a fantasy and not the basis of a strong foundation,” says Katia. “The novelty will soon wear off, especially as his flaws start to surface. No matter how cute he is, if you don’t have anything in common, your relationship won’t last once the chemical cocktail of serotonin, dopamine and norepinephrine wears off.” So hold off on the wedding dress fantasies for now – even if he would look delish in a tux.
Go Forth and Date!
Ultimately, the art of dating a trophy boyfriend is all about managing your own expectations and focusing on the positives of the situation. ” There are two things you can expect when you’re dating a trophy guy,” says Katia. “Hot sex and lots of it!” Enough said. We’re sold. You’re smart enough to know that relationships are about a soul connection, but while you’re waiting for Prince Charming to show up, there’s nothing wrong with a little eye candy on the side.
- Have crazy amounts of insanely hot sex
- Trot him out to everything from your high school reunion to work functions
- Maintain your independence
- Have fun, and stay grounded
- Expect him to be something he’s not
- Fall in love just because he has abs
- Let him call all the shots
- Overthink it: he’s hot, it’s fun, it’s a fling.
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