Copyright Georgia Clark 2010
When you’re loved up… but your best friend isn’t.
It’s always been just the two of you – two single girls looking for love: until YOU found it. BFF crisis alert! This sitch could be bringing up all kinds of issues for her, like jealously, disappointment and guilt over having these negative emotions in the first place! We show you how to deal, with help from Lisa Phillips, life coach and friendship expert.
Don’t gloat: It can be hard not to spend 24/7 outlining the awesomeness of your new love, but honestly, it’s going to be hard for your friend to hear about it all the time. It’s not off limits, just be aware that too much Happy Boyfriend talk can be difficult to stomach if she’s looking for love herself. Save the excess gloatfest for girls who have boyfriends too.
Expert advice! “Even the most patient BFF will soon get fed up of hearing all the gory details about your new BF all day, so make sure you take her feelings into consideration.”
Do make time for her: Boys come and go, but friendship is forever! Even though you might be completely content staring into your crush’s eyes every night, remember she still has needs too. It’s selfish to cut your friend out of your life – if you do, she might not be there for you when you start to come back down from Cloud Nine!
Expert advice! “Never ditch arrangements with your friends in order to meet your new fella.”
Do fix her up with his cute friends: Hot guys have hot friends. Help your friend in her mission for a droolworthy boyfriend by suggesting you all rock a group hang every now and then – and make sure your BF only invites his SINGLE mates!
Expert advice! “Double dating means you get to spend time with your BFF and your BF!”
Don’t always talk about guys and dating: You guys are way more interesting than that! No matter who initiates the convos, make sure you don’t spend too much time discussing all things boy. If she doesn’t have a boyfriend, it can really add to the feeling that there’s nothing more to life than guys, which is completely untrue. Make time to do things you both like doing, whether that’s sports, shopping, volunteer work, Gossip Girl marathons – whatever!
Expert advice! “Make sure you still have your girl’s night out and catch up times. Also, make an effort to make these times guy-free!”
Do keep things in perspective: Relationships aren’t perfect – you have to compromise a whole bunch, and there are couple’s tiffs and misunderstandings, right? Make sure you share the not-so-fun details with her so she doesn’t think relationships are a paradise and being single is a death sentence.
Expert advice! “If you only share the good bits, she’ll start to think that being single is something which needs to be fixed.”